Now that I've posted the warm fuzzies birthday post I can post the real deal. How my day has been...
I woke up - still a bit pissed (angry pissed) from the whole go go gadget slap husband for lying about pachinko thing. I didn't actually slap him - I felt like it I admit but I didn't say anything to him.
By lunch time I still have yet to hear from anyone in my immediate family by way of birthday greetings for either self or Shou. I mean NZ family. Hub and the kids said happy birthday this morning and I think Granny K might have even managed a mumble - although this is the first year I haven't been given a prezzie or card from her. Guess everyone has their limits aye.
Currently THE ONLY birthday cards for Ryu, Shou and I are from the European Stylist AND her mother (who I have never met but know is an absolutely fabulous woman who continues to send me cards and gifts for my children AND Easter eggs. Seriously. The woman makes my day about ten days a year), and my good friend in NZ. It's hard I know. We all have children now and our own lives. I am also shit at remembering birthdays and things. Family I do - well, brothers, sisters and parents anyway. Nieces and friend's children gets a bit harder and they all start blending into one big bloody birthday and when am I meant to send what to who?
Coming from me, who only hours ago wrote that birthdays should be about the mother and not you. Well, I tried ringing mine four times today. I even tried dad. I tried my sister a few times and my brother at home. I got no-one and started panicking that something was wrong so I phoned my bros mobile - and disturbed him while out drinking with the lads at the cosy club. Everything is fine. Well, as fine as can be when your head is being zapped, you have lost most your hair and you feel sick as a dog. Mum goes home tomorrow. They can't wait.
So come lunch time I've done a bit of housework - nothing too arduous as is birthday after all. Feeling a bit like a Nigel no mates I check facebook and there you all are. A barrage of birthday messages. Thank you so much. What nice readers you are. Minus my blog and facebook today I think I would have been feeling very sorry for myself. I didn't comment back on all of them but please know every one was read and appreciated.
I had a few messages and phone calls late afternoon - my sister and then my other sister while I was in the bath so had to say no to that. There is so much going on with every single member of the family at the moment. Even with the pachinko bullshit I am still probably the one with the least 'worries' and 'life changing decisions' to make. Obviously if the dickhead keeps going and we don't sort this out I will have 'life changing decisions' to make, but for the time being....
I finish my English class at half five to see that my car has gone - hub has arrived home early and gone to pick up the kids. He comes home with flowers, a letter on that fancy paper, and a bottle of bubbles...
Shou also made me a card at kindy which was lovely - until Marina ripped it in half and I had to get the sellotape to it.
Ryu was pretty lovely all day too. He is into peek-a-boo (inai nai baaaaaaa) at the moment...
And me thinks some more teeth might be coming through - what with the teeth marks on the kotatsu table and all!!!
And I think that sums up my day. Hub is asleep on the floor after half a bottle of bubbles - with ice.
ten minutes later - he is now off up to bed. He made some mention of money earlier in the evening and I asked after the stash in his car. He looked surprised. I shoed him the pic of his car in the pachinko carpark. I love him I do. I thanked him for the wine and the flowers and the lovely letter (TWO PAGES of NICENESS - including one sentence about how he was sorry he had to work late so much - which made me want to burn it)
I told him the pachinko thing - he can go. That's not the problem. It's the lies and the debt that I don't know about that fucks me off. I said we need to sort something out. He grunted and went off up stairs to bed - not sure which. Shou is asleep in ours so unless he moves the lad there will be no birthday action happening this evening.
Anyway, thanks for reading to the end of my birthday rant.
Oh, and we did have cake kind of. I bought five small chocolate log things. Granny K gave me stick about my mothering skills this afternoon so I promptly ate her bit. Bugger if I'm inviting that woman in for cake this evening. Ryu did eat about half of it though. Lucky he's a bloke cause he will definitely have trouble with the diet thing me thinks.
And seriously now.
Away I go.
PS - I applied (??) to be listed on a list of Kiwi Mum Blogs. I got an email back saying my blog was the most foulest blog out of their 150 listings and that they weren't sure I was entirely appropriate. Didn't actually say that. Said 'why the swearing and anger' kind of thing.
I realize I aren't everybody's cup of tea. Bloody hell. I'm not even my own cup of cha half the time.
But can I ask you lovely lot.
Would you still come and read about life de gaijinwife if there were no obscenities, blasphemies or bitchiness of any kind??
That said, there is no way I could write a wholesome post - although my birthday one about mum today had hardly any bad words in it... !!!!