Yesterday was a bit of a test to my patience. I walked the kids to kindy and five minutes before walking back in the door my phone rang saying that Shou had a temp and could I come pick him up. Had to drop the pram off and get straight into the car. 38.2 degrees - for an hour and then down to normal. I had given him some meddy though so thought it was probably just that kicking in.
After lunch it was still normal and I tried to convince him to go back to kindy but he was not having a bar of it. Granny K wanted me to cancel my afternoon English class but the class brings in 5000 yen for the hour and we are heading for a month of tofu and instant ramen so canceling the class really not option. God, it's going to cost us that much just to get into the Aquarium for the kindy outing this Saturday.
For about forty minutes in the afternoon before class a miracle happened and Shou fell alseep in front of his construction vehicle dvd and Ryu was napping up stairs. I was able to make dinner (nikujaga) and then sit down and have a coffee and sort out English in peace. OK, so more like an hour.
The class itself was I guess better than it could have been given the circumstances. Shou was all over the place but we were doing very boring to a three year old stuff so he was out in Granny's room a bit too. Got through everything had set so hopefully the girls didn't go home with tales of Shou jumping round the room and trying to climb on sensei's shoulders.
Went to pick Marina up and was very cute - Shou ran to meet her and then held her hand the whole way to the car and even opened her door. Too cute. They both scoffed back nikujaga-don (really just meat spuds and carrots with a soupy sauce on rice) and the only thing that sparked me up was Shou using his bath toy waterpistol to shoot the TV and one of my books. Ooooh, mummy not happy.
Anyhoo, kids at kindy today and Ryu sleeping. I got back from kindy and Granny K told me to turn the TV to NHK. Came in here and turned it on - straight to speal about looking after vestling on-the-decline inlaws that are living with you and how shouldn't be embarrassed to leave it to the pros. Very interesting. Think perhaps Granny K, after seeing a few mummy meltdowns, has started thinking her chances of survival are better if she goes into a home with round the clock care instead of bitchy daughter in law complaining everytime she needs to change her vestling nappy or spoonfeed her sloppy rice.
This was followed by section on marriages and the divorce rate and the different hurdles at different times of marriage.
This is basically what was said - in gaijinwife words of course.
Newly wed (43% of divorces happen within the first 5 years)
You marry your bloke cause you think he's a bit of all right and that you will be happy and grow old together. Doesn't take long to find out that he can be a bit of a fuck wit sometimes, farts while you're eating, gives you a bit of lip about how you clean and cook and skives off to pachinko on the sly. Also mentioned the having kids, buying a house and living with inlaws to cause 'hiccups' in these first years. Christ, I've still got the bloody hiccups.
6 - 10 years (11% of divorces)
Money problems is the main reason for divorce. Kids get bigger, you're getting over the shitty bums and sleepless nights but start thinking about how much the rugrats will bleed from you before they are old enough to kick out of home - and then they keep bleeding you dry for varsity and god forbid longer.
11-20 years (28% of divorces)
Your lives start going on different paths - ships passing in the night kind of thing. Hub has work and you have the house, kids and mummy friends. The small things you put up with at the start because kicking him out of home would have left you a single mother of three under three are starting to piss you off again. For the love of god will the man not suck his butt cheeks in until he's walked that extra two steps out the door and closed it before letting a big one rip? And he's fifty for god sake, he doesn't need to report every time he's going to the toilet for a big crap.
21 years - (18% of divorces)Main reason for older divorce used to be because hub had retired and was at home all the time sitting on his arse while the wife continued to 'work' doing the same thing she always had. No god damn retiring from washing, cooking and vacuuming. Now adays the main reason is hub retiring and wanting to do what he wants, regardless of what wifey wants. Communication breaks down and couples stop telling each other the little things - like I love you and fancy a shag love.
Oh, and on the news that got reported while this program was on there was a segment on a new book - looking after/raising grandchildren. It outlined the differences in child raising back then and now. I think it is supposed to help the grandparents now in looking after their grandchildren in such a way as to not fuck the parents off. Back then it was thought that cuddling and rocking a baby too much would get them into the habbit of always being held. Now? The book says that cuddles are 'nutrition for the heart' - isn't that great. My translation of course - Japanese was 'kokoro (ni)no eiyo' or something.
Right, so that post was a bit all over the place. For some reason (I've stopped wondering with this computer) my curser pad and mouse won't move at all so I might not be able to get back up to put in a title. New computer finally got OKed through the Apple Shop. They wouldn't accept my initial order as I tried it with my JCB credit card - but am unable to pay in installments so put it on hub's card - after a bit more faffing around caused by this piece of shit. Shouldn't be long though till I'm up with the play.