Does your significant other have someone of the opposite sex (or same sex if you're that way inclined) that he/she emails on a regular basis? Someone younger or in and around the same age?
Hub has 'Takagi-san' - who he used to go to school with back in the day. She is married with a daughter or two and now lives in the next town over. She is the 'bloody big fat pumping hearts' woman. Fair enough that wasn't actually sent on purpose by her - thanks docomo. They email from time to time. From what I can gather a few times a week or a bit more. Hub deletes his email and phone history - I would too if I was married to someone like me :)
Yesterday he left his phone at home. He rang up and asked if I was coming over his way and if so could I drop it off. I wasn't planning on going in that direction so the phone stayed at home. He rang at lunch and got me to check his phone. He knew he had an email from her and wanted to know if there was anything else. I said no and he made a big show and dance about saying I could open the mail from her. So I did and it was innocently about how she was supposed to be doing all this work but was sitting there eating all the snacks instead.
Anyhoo, this morning I noticed in between trying to put four socks on four very unwilling feet that hub had retreated upstairs with his phone. I creep upstairs (I know, I know. Don't even start) and into our room where hub quickly shuts his phone and pretends to do a big stretch. The old 'I'm not doing anything wrong / big stretch trick' aye!
I asked him how Takagi-san was and he immediately looked soooooo sheepish - like a 14 year old boy being caught out with a pile of girlie mags under his mattress. He showed me the mail and it was innocently about how work sucks doesn't it, and itsn't it getting nice and warm lately. There were appropriate moving pictures inserted.
We all need friends. I have guy friends that I email occassionaly. Probably not any that I email every couple of days and none that I would look so sheepish about if hub caught me emailing them. 'Caught' isn't a very good word really as he wasn't technically doing anything wrong. But just the way he reacted really got to me and turned me into an instant grumpy bitch.
He got all stroppy - it's nothing it's nothing, he was just being polite returning her text. I said I was fucked off cause
a. he spends more time sending her nice texts with moving pictures than he does me.
b. I am downstairs sorting the kids out while he is upstairs fluffing around with pictures of cherry blossoms and faces with a moving smiling mouth.
c. he purposefully went upstairs with his phone to do it - he said so that I wouldn't get annoyed. If he knew I was going to get pissed off why couldn't he friggin well wait till he was out in the car on his way to work.
d. and the biggy - he just acted so guilty and 'caught out'
Transformed bitchy wife overracting and feeling like big fat stupid heffer, especially after was so nice yesterday with the extra pocket money AND a late night international relations meeting - insitgated by and for hub. And here he is emailing a skinny slapper about the weather and wondering why he didn't pass her on the way to work yesterday. Was everything OK?
Not exactly secret squirrel emails about which love hotel to meet at but still. Feel well better for ranting about it though. Thanks.
Still bitchy when hub was leaving I said that if he wanted me to order the wood cutter thing could he take 30,000 out of his cut and give it back. He muttered something under his breath and slamed the door on his way out. So I guess he doesn't want it then.
A pity the day had this glip after I awoke feeling so refreshed. Had a lovely long soak in the tub last night with candles and smellies. Need to do that more often. I heard Ryu wake up and then hub go in and get him and NOT come and tell me - good man. Let me soak in peace. Got up and fed Ryu 200ml of formula and then hub and I retreated upstairs.
Hub suggested a meeting perhaps? maybe? Rightio then. Let's get on with it. Unromantic as it sounds actually was good meeting and I went to sleep with cuddles and feeling very sleepy and like was about to embark on sleep of all sleeps.
And that it was. FOUR WHOLE HOURS. God bless the boy.
Boob at 2:30am and then another THREE WHOLE HOURS. God bless the boy again.
I woke up a completely different person to the person I was yesterday morning, the day before that and every other day before that for long time. Pity I had to be an untrusting and sneaky wife over the email thing as really has left ME feeling pissed off and no doubt hub isn't giving it another thought.
Right, Ryu has woken from his nap. Time for some play time. He has a jab today, poor thing.