Well that record still aint fixed and last night wasn't very good either. I am thinking that, at nearly eight months, Ryu may be
a. teething (again - what happened last time? Suckers got sucked back down into the gums. I was positive I could see some white) or
b. getting used to the solids thing.
He has two meals of solids a day - usually mashed banana and bread in the morning and a proper mashy vegetable fishy ricey disgusting homemade gloop thing in the evening, which he scoffs back. He didn't deposit anything substantial yesterday which must have been uncomfortable as he is a pretty regular little boy.
Tonight I tried a nice bath followed by a massage to see if that would sooth him to sleep some more - coupled with some pamol and teething gel just in case. Gotta cover all my bases here.
Why the massage?
I went to the baby massage class at the local centre this morning. I was pretty knackered and was nearly going to flag it but decided the worst that could happen would be that Ryu got a nice rub down. I am waiting in vain for a massage class for mummies. How nice would that be.
The town sent us a postcard about the class which hub left in his desk at work - as actually the social welfare woman who runs it gave it straight to him. Got hub to mail me the time this morning - he said 10am. Granny K had gone off to pottery class at the same centre and rang saying my class started at half 10. Who to believe? The husband with the postcard in his hands on the Granny who is at the actual location talking to someone who is helping with it. Hmmmmm. I decided not to take sides and rocked up at 10:15. To find everyone in a nice circle already having weighed their babies and been given the handouts and little samples of baby massage oil.
There were seven mothers and babies altogether. I knew only one other woman - who introduced me to her sister n law sitting beside her, and then whispered in my ear (in plain view of sister) that she had come back to Kunimi ON HER OWN with her two kids. OK, another bit of useless information to file away with the petrol station bloke's sick grandpa.
Ryu loved the massage. But then he loves getting naked full stop. We used grapeseed oil (I think) but she reckoned any 100% oil would be fine. Olive oil OK too if you fancy a baby smelling like a greek salad. I'm not sure if the low cholestoral cooking oil you can get at our fine supermarket would be very good though. Might have a hunt round Fukuoka - 3 tablespoons of base oil to a couple of drops of aroma oil, lavenda or chamomile. Or I could just use the J&J baby massage lotion I got from friend.
Tonight's massage wasn't quite as it should have been though. No quiet room with nice BGM playing and rose smelling candle lit and mum with a glass of wine to sip in between thigh roll rubs and limpa charka whatsit strokes and circly finger thingies. No no. Fire crackling, anpanman on full tit and two children running rambage with Granny K trying her best to make sure they don't stomp on Ryu's head. He still loved it though and is sleeping in peaceful slumber at the moment - long may it last.
Yeah right. He'll be gagging for boob in ten minutes. Woe is me. He had so much for dinner too the bloody bottemless pit.
In between teaching us the massage stuff the teacher was talking about parent child bonding and how we should be gazing peacefully and lovingly into each other's eyes when breastfeeding - as opposed to typing on the computer, skulling back coffee to keep self awake, watching the box or gassing on the phone. I like to think that instead of being a crap mummy because half the time I am doing something else while I boob feed, I am infact honing my wonderful multitasking skills. Christ, I haven't got time to faff round with twenty minutes of loving looks. Things to do people. Cheese to order, friends to talk to.
That said though she had some really valid points that made me think long and hard about my current mummying. Some were...
1. up until the age of 3 - LOVE
2. bewteen 3 and 6 - SHITSUKE (training or fuuuuuuuuuuck I can't think of the English word. Help me out here - as training sounds like what you would do for a dog.)
3. 6 to 9 years is proper language ... and after that I kind of phased out as far too many years down the track for me to input properly.
What it means though is that I am way too hard on Marina. There are so many times when I just expect her to behave like Shou - when 16 months is a huge difference at that age.
4. praise your child 50 times a day. At the time I thought shit that's a far amount, but upon coming home this evening and being more conscious of what I was doing I realised it isn't that actually that many. Good boy Shou. Thank you so much for actually navigating that spoonful of dinner into your mouth. Aren't you doing well. Well done Marina, for getting a tissue all by yourself to wipe the hand that wasn't the hand you used to put that meant-to-be-spoonful of stew into your mouth. Praise the good, look over the bad unless it is dangerous or in your face defiant, and take a serious chill pill for the rest.
I can do this.
I think I can, I think I can.
Had English this arvo and coffee with coffee Chiemi. She made the comment that she has recently started thinking babies are cute again - her youngest (of three - oldest six) will be 1 next month. What she means of course is that babies are all cute but she has just started thinking again that another one of her own wouldn't be too bad. We had quite a lengthy discussion on this and both agreed that if the baby slept... I want me one of those babies that come out the saloon doors asleep, wakes up for a little cry and then promptly goes back to sleep for the next three years.
She then said she could probably almost go through that again though - but what the fuck if it was twins (which someone posted a comment about on yesterday's post). Fuck I reckon. You'd have to laugh but. Nothing else to do. Yesterday's comment suggested I would need a two week stay in a clinic for twins.
I replied that I would need six months on a beach in the Carribean with a wet nurse, two nannies, a chef and a bartender.
PS - 3 more sleeps till minibreak.