Today was a much better day. Mostly due to the few more hours sleep I got than the night before. Prozac mummy jumped out of bed this morning. Well almost prozac mummy. What would be the chances of getting some really good drugs in Kunimi.
I read my 'akachan to mama' (baby and mummy) mag this afternoon. There was an article on 'raising kids - then and now' - all about what Granny K's age group believed what was good parenting compared to now and what we think - a lot of the changes based on research and medical science. Was quite interesting..
Then: Get bubs off the boob/milk as soon as you can, give bubs lukewarm water or diluted mugicha tea after the bath.
Now: Let bubs suck you dry for as long as they want. Wait till they WANT to 'sotsugyo' graduate the boob. While they are boobing it no need to try and give them any other liquid whatsoever - thats according to WHO. Is not good for bub's digestive system and could lead to allergies or whatever.
Then: That it's OK to mulch the food in your mouth before you give it to your baby.
Now: Have realised we aren't bunch of fuckin birds. This also leads to mother passing on mouth nasties - tooth decay.
Then: Bad news to let a baby suck on a dummy. Not good for teeth development and can impair speech.
Now: Bunch of fuckin bollocks. If it shuts the baby up when it's stressing you out shove it in. Actually means they start breathing through their nose properly and can help in reducing alergies and asthma (??)
Then: Let the baby cry. Picking them up and cuddling them too much will make them reliant on being cuddled to get them off to sleep.
Now: Cuddling is good bonding with the baby and cuddling them instead of letting them cry will help lead to them becoming more independant.
Then: You should start toilet trying at one year old
Then: If a child has a fever warm them up and let them sweat it out.
Now: Cool them down.
There were more and also a couple about cultural differences.
West: baby goes in own bed from almost straight away and then a little bit later into their very own room. Gasp.
More Japanese people are doing this apparantly and it isn't really encouraged because... In the west we tend to be more kissy kissy, cuddly cuddly during the day and therefore separating from the baby at night is OK as they are still getting enough affection. But in Japan, the culture is less cuddly and so sleeping together at night has worked well in giving kids the affection they need. Only taking the one side of the coin - putting the baby in their own bed - and not upping the affection during the day and perhaps, well perhaps an akihabara killing spree nut case in the making.
(mag didn't actually say that)
And my personal favorite...
Japan: Kids aren't put to sleep on their tummy due to the whole SIDS thing. But why do people in the west put their babies to sleep on their tummies??? a) because matresses over there are harder and no sinking in and not being able to breath AND...
and this is so obvious. Their noses are 'higher' and therefore not squashed into breathlessness on the pillow - or rather the high-bridged nose makes a baby turn their head to the side to breath.
What absolute fucking bollocks. I'm sorry editor, but my very western, high nosed little brother sleeping on a hard matress died of cotdeath so me thinks this reasoning is crap. Gotta be a bit bewilderded at information like this. Does anyone know what SIDS was called in Japanese back in the day when it was Cotdeath?? Surely not Death by Futon? Perhaps it was FNDS - flat nose death syndrome.
Sorry, very poor taste.
Anyhoo, I am going to have to go to bed. It is half eleven and I started writing this two hours ago - but got sidetracked by damn episode of outrageous fortune where the baby is stillborn. Hub was very worried when he walked in after his union meeting and drinky thing to find me all red eyed and teary.