Not to sound like a broken record but today was another sunday in the gaijin wife household. Another sunday of tanties, oversized spiders, mother in laws saying stupid things, visitors at inappropriate times, more tanties, an unsettled baby, a neurotic mummy and god bless him a daddy trying to do his best.
We started the morning with a spider incident. And here I was only a couple of days ago saying there was NO WAY the spider in the log burner could get out. Whatever. This morning I was on the loo and Shou came running in saying spider, spider, mummy there's a spider by the rubbish bin. I thought was small (size of fingers when you do the OK sign) spider I sprayed last night. I get off toilet and investigate, thinking am looking for dead spider. I bend down and when I lift my head up I am face to face with the ash covered spider from the fireplace. Fuck, shit and bugger me sideways. Get spray and spend five minutes composing self. Tell Shou to stay on the chair and just as well cause as soon as sprayed it it came running at me - I kid you not. I jump on the couch like a pathetic woman and then, to save my family from being eaten alive by gigantic spider I tissue box the skinny legged bastard - and leave it as is for hub to dispose of. All can say is thank god I'm not shagging hub at the moment.
By about 9am I was ready to pack it in for the day - or at least pack Shou off and send him to a distant relative in outer Mongolia - if we had any.
Sundays are by far my most 'I suck at this whole parenting lark' day. Some of the thoughts I have are both scary and embarrassing and it is amazing how fast they can come on or evaporate into smiley mummy and I love my kids more than life itself mummy. I don't think Shou did ONE thing easily today. Every step was a challenge. Some things I just gave in on but others that I stuck my parental rights ground on I ended up having to deal with a tanty.
We had two particularly spectacular ones - or rather one very horrendous one, during which Granny K felt the need to come in and voice her opinion on how Shou needed to be taken to the doctors as he obviously had some tanty inducing illness. I myself think he is just being a three year old. Whoever invented the terrible two phrase obviously didn't have a child who was three! Anyway, hub told Granny K to bugger off and I just ignored her - as I do so much these days.
Then there are family moments like this...
When you think how lucky you are...
how much you love your husband for being so good with the kids and knowing when you are about to break and need a minute away
how much you love your daughter for being so damn cute and increasingly helpful
how much you love you son for actually saying thankyou for the awesome shoes he got the other day and for being able to do big boy stuff like going on the swing unassisted
how much you love your baby for being so rolly polly cute and happy at hanging out in his bouncer on the deck watching the washing in the breeze
how much you love your mother in law
OK, so that's just pushing it a bit.
About the inappropriate visitors...
At half nine two vestlings turn up - they are here to meet Ryu and give us a small gift and 'welcome' him to the community and tell me to contact them should I need any mothering adivce. The lady came over on Monday and asked if the two of them could come and do their bit on Wednesday at 11am. I said I didn't know what time would be back from drinking myself legless in Beppu so perhaps another day would be better. She suggested Sunday. I said was worse day of week and would be absolute chaos. She asked but would we be home. I said yes but... She said see you on Sunday then.
So they turn up and I am in jimjams and hub has both Shou and Marina in car to take out to park. I ask hub to sidetrack vestlings for five mins while I throw on at least a bra and undies under my jim jams. Just as I am about to go out and great them they bloody well leave. I should be grateful but I am resentful that they turn up at such a ridiculous time on a Sunday morning and leave before I have even had the chance to throw on some trackies.
Add-in - hub has just said he saw a 'ハッマー' in real life (Hanmaaaaa), and I thought he meant the thing those beefy mullet haired men throw round their heads at the olympic games, but he actually meant the car. Sigh to life in an international marriage. It's amazing we can communicate at all really.
He has also just said, out of the blue, that 'Katy ga sekai de ichiban suki da yo' (love you mostest in whole world) - been a LONG time since had anything like that so is nice. In between typing we have been talking about the rah rahs of life with three small kids. This time will pass. We WILL get through this time and come out with well rounded kids. Well, lets hope so.
damn - has just said 'shinai?' (want a shag?) which made me laugh, as I clink my wine glass with his. But, hey is times like this when lets face it, and be completely rude in the process, that a good rogering would perhaps not infact make things any worse but would at least release something from somewhere at sometime ..
Watch this space.
Edit - half an hour later. Helloooooooo Roger. Feel loads better. All is well in the world. Love being mum of small three children. Two out of three of whom will wake up during the night!!