Firstly, apologies if yesterday's post offended anybody. Well, I know for sure it did and that I guess to some people the way I behaved and treated my kids yesterday is very much in the 'bad mummy of the year' category. I'm not sure that I am too thrilled about being told I probably shouldn't have a third baby if I couldn't handle having two but then each to their own I guess.
Some people must just have extremely calm personalities and if there is a person out there who is like this, and has a bag full of tricks to help get through those times then can you please tell me some - the setting boundaries comment was good and I will take that on board. Can you then please survive for four weeks on less than five hours sleep a night, look after a two year old and a one year old while you are five months pregnant, all day everyday for that same amount of time with no external help and do it whilst living in your parents house who are there most of the time but do not help and do in fact add to the stress, AND THEN pick another trick out of that handy bag of kid raising tricks and tell me another. I am not religious so taking ten seconds out to ask for help from above to calm my frazzled nerves is not an option. I have never done yoga or mediation so ditto.
It is amazing how one comment can make you feel so defensive. I did um and ah about posting about yesterday but figured that there must be other mummies out there who have bad days and lose it. I'm not proud of how I acted and I DO WISH I could have handled it better but I didn't. Anyway, crap mother business aside today was all in all a better day - and I aren't just saying that so that I don't get any more feel-bad comments.
Shou slept a lot better and mummy was a lot more refreshed this morning. After breakfast we went down to the park where I refrained from throwing park equipment at my children and smacking them in public. Actually Shou had great time lining up bits of bark in the pretend shop and selling them to me. We did the supermarket thing on the way home and then all had a good late morning nap followed by a late lunch.
Brother brought round our three nieces this afternoon and it was happy families with Shou running round naked again and watering the concrete Buddha Granny A has in the garden. Hope that hasn't ruined any karma and I did make Shou rub it's bald head in an apology. My eldest niece stayed back for a while and then we dropped her off home.
I was out in the car recharging my cell battery while Shou was flicking the hazard lights off and on when I saw a big hairy man making his way through the bushes and trees above our house - there is a row of four flats above our house and he went up the stairs to the second one and on the the deck. It just happens that my brother is the real estate agent trying to sell the flat so I called him and asked him if anyone was living there at the moment - nope. He came around and called the owners to see who else had a key - nobody. Said big hairy man then came out of flat and lit ciggy on porch. Brother saw was the slightly not quite all there son of the owners who used to live there but is now supposed to be in a home for the slightly not quite all there. Father came and picked son up and took the key they didn't know he had and I can sleep easy - or as easy as I have been - knowing that big hairy men aren't roaming the section.
Did take a couple of good pics today of my traumatised by the cup throwing experience children but my phone is out of juice again so I will try and send them tomorrow when we head out.
I happened to meet up with an old friend today and we are going to be catching up with her properly on Tuesday. She is married to a Swiss man and based in Switzerland. While their situation is very different the bilingual factor is the same and her kids are now 6, 4 and 1 and a half so it will be interesting to hear how that has been.